I’ve been spending some time reflecting lately on who I used to be, and where I am now. I might be confident now (a confidence coach even!), but there was a time I was too afraid to ask questions in class, share in group discussions or speak up. I remember sitting in class in college, and the mere THOUGHT of asking a question sent me into a panic. My heart would absolutely pound, I would turn beet red, I would get clammy, and I never actually did raise my hand to ask a question. It was more important to me to stay “safe” than to get the answers.
I recall this happening often, when thinking of speaking up, whether in class, on conference calls where I knew everyone, or in front of friends, my anxiety would shoot through the roof, practically paralyzing me with fear. I was so afraid of being seen, looking dumb or not having anything of value to contribute that I panicked and kept my mouth shut. But I consistently pushed myself outside my comfort zone, because I knew I needed to if I wanted to grow as a person, and eventually make a big impact in the world (which I have wanted to do since I was a little girl), that I needed to stop being so afraid and to make a change.
My vision was always bigger than my fears. If there was something I was passionate about, I would do it despite my fear. For example, just after I started college in 2001, 9/11 happened. It was terrifying and devastating. But to support others and to make a difference, my roommate and I joined a group on campus called D.R.E.A.M (Daring to Reach Equality Among Many) and we canvassed the campus, encouraging love, to end hate, equality among everyone, no matter their race, sexual orientation, religion, etc. My roommate and I were named “Residents of the Month” for our work!
In 2008, I took a GIANT leap outside my comfort zone, which was an incredibly bold move, and I joined Passion Parties. Being someone who had major anxiety for days before a school presentation, joining a company where not only did I have to speak in front of groups and sell to make money, but I was selling romance enhancers, lotions, potions, things that went BUZZ in the night! Talk about BOLD!! But I did it for a reason…
I knew that if I didn’t do something to get outside of the little comfortable box I was living in, that I would never reach my vision for my life, of impacting thousands of people around the world. I always knew I was meant for more in my life, and if I didn’t take a big fat bold leap, I wouldn’t be able to make that happen. In the 5 years I spent in that business, I built a team, reached Executive Director (the highest paid rank in the company), built my confidence in huge ways, and fell in love with empowering women.
Now, I live a life I love, where I am rarely comfortable, LOL! I am consistently outside of my comfort zone, stretching, growing, expanding into better versions of myself, so that I can impact more and more women. I am a speaker, I host monthly MeetUps, run my own events, retreats, which was a big dream of mine for years!
It feels amazing to change lives, to help the women I work with to believe in themselves, be confident in who they are and their inherent worth, which in turn creates a ripple effect because they get to help more of their peeps too.
If I hadn’t been incredibly bold by taking a huge leap, and lots of leaps and baby steps since, I wouldn’t get to do what I do now. And I am here to tell you, that if I can do it, you can too.
If you have a dream, but have been too scared to move forward, take that leap, feel that fear, be bold, and do it anyway. Because on the other side of that fear, is impact, fulfillment, and your legacy.
Sometimes, you just need to be able to take a leap of faith and trust that everything will work out especially when your gut is telling you to do it! If your gut is telling you “I need to invest in this coach” or “I need to go to this networking event or sign up for that class or leap on this opportunity,” just do it, listen to your gut. Ask your body, listen to what your body is telling you when you think about these opportunities as they present themselves. Your body will tell you “YES, go for it”, or “NO, hold back” and you need to listen to that.
Ask yourself, “Is this opportunity going to help me move towards my goals? Is this investment going to help support me?” And know that not all investments are going to come back to you the way you hope, but it’s still important for you to go for it, take those leaps, be bold, be brave, and believe in yourself!
The hardest person to show up for is YOU …. every…single…time. We tend to show up for everybody else in our lives first: our family, our friends, our clients, even our neighbors.
Today, I’m inviting you to show up for yourself, to dig deep and build your confidence to create a more empowered, confident you!
I have several options of working with me, and I would love to invite you to have a complimentary Bold Breakthrough call with me, to see where you are stuck, breakthrough those blocks and get you on the path to being more bold and confident. I’ve had women have massive breakthroughs with just ONE call with me. You’ve got nothing to lose, and confidence to gain from talking with me. If you could gain confidence, grow your business and make more money, why not take an hour to talk with me??
P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are 3 ways I can support you…
- Join the FREE Confident Woman Community Facebook group where I support the community more in depth and give special trainings
- I have my Bold Business Woman group program. If you’re interested in finding out more about that, leave a comment with the word BOLD
- I have my 90 Days to Bold Confidence 1:1 program. If you’re interested in finding out more about that, leave a comment with the words 90 Days